Inverting the vex
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Inverting the vex
The Trap of External Solutions
When we feel stuck, our instinct is to look outside ourselves:
But here's a powerful alternative:
Use your dissatisfaction as fuel for inner growth.
Instead of chasing external solutions, focus on changing yourself.
This ... See more
When we feel stuck, our instinct is to look outside ourselves:
- A new direction in our business
- A different project
- A change of scenery, traveling to an exotic location
But here's a powerful alternative:
Use your dissatisfaction as fuel for inner growth.
Instead of chasing external solutions, focus on changing yourself.
This ... See more
Phil Powis • 057: The Sacred Art of Finding Inspiration in the Ordinary
This is the puzzle mindset. We should look at a problem and figure out potential solutions instead of just wallowing in rage and doubling down on our biases. I didn’t come up with this idea, of course. It’s a theme that has popped up over and over in my reading and conversations this year. The idea is expressed using different metaphors.
A.J. Jacobs • The Puzzler: One Man's Quest to Solve the Most Baffling Puzzles Ever, from Crosswords to Jigsaws to the Meaning of Life
Does your situation need to change, or just your outlook on it?
I recently came across a story that I love:
Two salesmen were sent by a shoe manufacturer to a rural part of India to investigate and report back on market potential.
The first salesman reported back, "There is no potential here. Nobody wears shoes."
The second salesman reported bac... See more
I recently came across a story that I love:
Two salesmen were sent by a shoe manufacturer to a rural part of India to investigate and report back on market potential.
The first salesman reported back, "There is no potential here. Nobody wears shoes."
The second salesman reported bac... See more
5 Principles for Life, Cobra Effects, & More
When a problem is disturbing you, don’t ask, “What should I do about it?” Ask, “What part of me is being disturbed by this?” If you ask, “What should I do about it?” you’ve already fallen into believing that there really is a problem outside that must be dealt with. If you want to achieve peace in the face of your problems, you must understand why
... See moreMichael A. Singer • The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself
"I split problems into two groups: muddy puddles and leaky ceilings.
Some problems are like muddy puddles. The way to clear a muddy puddle is to leave it alone. The more you mess with it, the muddier it becomes. Many of the problems I dream up when I'm overthinking or worrying or ruminating fall into this category. Is life really falling apart or a... See more
Some problems are like muddy puddles. The way to clear a muddy puddle is to leave it alone. The more you mess with it, the muddier it becomes. Many of the problems I dream up when I'm overthinking or worrying or ruminating fall into this category. Is life really falling apart or a... See more
3-2-1: On muddy puddles and leaky ceilings, the secret to productivity, and how to spoil a great relationship
Christie Sausa added
When a problem is bothering you, it feels like you need to do something about it. Instead, identify what belief is really the source of your trouble. Replace that belief with one that doesn’t bother you. Then the problem is solved. Most problems are really just situations.
Derek Sivers • How to Live: 27 conflicting answers and one weird conclusion
Problems, by definition, have solutions. You might not like the cost of the solution, the trade-offs it leads to, or the time and effort it takes, but problems have solutions.
On the other hand, situations don’t. Situations are simply things we need to live with.
Once we realize that a problem we have isn’t a problem at all, but actually a situation,... See more
On the other hand, situations don’t. Situations are simply things we need to live with.
Once we realize that a problem we have isn’t a problem at all, but actually a situation,... See more
Working With Problems
sari and added
Often, it’s this realization—that you and your problems are actually not privileged in their severity or pain—that is the first and most important step toward solving them.
Mark Manson • The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life (Mark Manson Collection Book 1)
Kaustubh Sule added
.psychology maybe thete is a message that cyclical nature of problem then suffering then action then happiness then problem . This loop continues . Suffering serves us to survive and grow by taking action .it becomes an evolutionary trait. We have to follow this process with second prority being results. Might as well choose a worthy problem to solve