Instead of focusing on rules, Taking Children Seriously focuses on fostering understanding. Parenting is the process of supporting a child until they understand the world well enough that they can support themselves. What is the best way to foster understanding? To provide freedom and security for a person’s creativity to discover how the world works. Rules limit freedom, and hence understanding, and therefore impair the parenting project.
Instead of focusing on rules, Taking Children Seriously focuses on fostering understanding. Parenting is the process of supporting a child until they understand the world well enough that they can support themselves. What is the best way to foster understanding? To provide freedom and security for a person’s creativity to discover how the world works. Rules limit freedom, and hence understanding, and therefore impair the parenting project.
The purpose of loving children is to give those helpless young human beings a rich, stable, safe environment - an environment in which variation, innovation, and novelty can blossom.
Derek Sivers • The Gardener and the Carpenter - by Alison Gopnik | Derek Sivers
TRUST: We are in a crisis of trust the world over. Parents are afraid, and that makes our children afraid — to be who they are, to take risks, to stand up against injustice. Trust has to start with us. When we’re confident in the choices we make as parents, we can then trust our children to take important and necessary steps toward empowerment and
... See moreEsther Wojcicki • How to Raise Happy and Successful Children: Simple Lessons for Radical Results
It’s essential to “parent on a conscious level” How so? – By following the ‘TRICK’ acronym: Trust: Are you trusting your child? For instance, trust them to make a healthy breakfast themselvesRespect: Are you respecting your child’s ideas?Independence: Are you giving your child independence?Collaboration: Are you collaborating with your child and ac... See more
Esther Wojcicki • The goop Podcast on Apple Podcasts
A great way to think about parenting: Think of it as executing it from a place of where you’re the leader, leading from the heart with compassion, all the while supporting your child to be their best self
Farnam Street • Dr. Laura Markham: Peaceful Parenting [The Knowledge Project Ep. #52]
The three keys to peaceful parenting:
- Regulate your own emotions:“Our ability to self-regulate might have the biggest impact on who our child turns out to be compared to anything else we do”
- Connect with your kids
- Coach instead of punishing
Farnam Street • Dr. Laura Markham: Peaceful Parenting [The Knowledge Project Ep. #52]
And this process requires a deeper layer of respect: accepting a child for who he is and letting his life unfold accordingly. Kids need to be allowed to take the lead. That means you follow them. Children know who they are. Your job is to honor and respect that.