We compare ourselves to others, using the five measures of worldly success linked to the affluenza virus—possessions, achievements, looks, money and status.

Self-centeredness, in our discussion, is not about selfishness—it’s not a moral issue. Rather, it’s a preoccupation with ourselves that limits our options and stunts our growth.

In the pursuit of a courageous life, we must continually learn about ourselves—who we really are and what’s truly meaningful. There’s only one way to truly know freedom, and that is to find that part of yourself that longs for it and to find exactly what it longs for, beyond the temporary pleasures and possessions that possess us. We must be determ

the biggest victory isn’t about getting something shiny, fast, and lavish, winning a gold medal, a corner office, or a national championship, but rather winning the battle with yourself – the battle for your heart.

O, God of wonder, enlarge my capacity to be amazed at what is amazing and end my attraction to the insignificant. —Dr. John Piper, Theologian

Possessions and achievements, looks, money and status are all fleeting, and a heart built on temporary things will have insecurity as a constant companion.

I compete to raise the level of excellence in my life, to learn and grow, in order to raise it in others.

We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered to us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by an offer of a holiday at sea. We are far too easily pleased. —C.S. Lewis, The Weight of Glory