In Open Defense of Transactionality

These men have been conditioned to believe that if they are “nice,” they will be loved, get their needs met, and have a smooth life.

Just find your shortcomings, start disliking yourself, and become someone who doesn’t enter into interpersonal relationships. That way, if you can shut yourself into your own shell, you won’t have to interact with anyone, and you’ll even have a justification ready whenever other people snub you. That it’s because of your shortcomings that you get s

Instead of feeling judged by another person as “good,” being able to feel, by way of one’s own subjective viewpoint, that “I can make contributions to other people.”

What if you just stopped trying to justify your existence by either compulsively doing or attaching to not-doing? Who are you then?