I discovered something very unexpected. I found that within my embodied grief, there was radiance. I felt beautiful and pure in my devastation. I felt no rush to move from this space. It was mine: my love, my anguish, my loss, mine. I had lived; I had loved and been loved by an extraordinary man. The way I connected with my radiance again was to

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On the other hand, no person we have loved is ever fully gone. When they die or vanish, they are physically no longer present, but their personhood permeates our synapses with memories and habits of mind, saturates an all-pervading atmosphere of feeling we don’t just carry with us all the time but live and breathe inside. Or the opposite happens,... See more