I Never Thought of It That Way: How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times
Mónica Guzmánamazon.com
I Never Thought of It That Way: How to Have Fearlessly Curious Conversations in Dangerously Divided Times
My second-favorite word in Spanish that has no translation in English is “convivir.” It’s a verb that means “to live together.”
Most of us default to abstractions. When someone wants to hear why we believe what we believe, the first answer that comes to mind is the direct one: Because of X.
This trip I had a box of Seattle smoked salmon, a growler of Rachel’s Ginger Beer, and a package of MarketSpice cinnamon-orange tea—my favorite.
“Having a real talk with real people, instead of all that angry yelling on Facebook.” “Getting to know people who don’t live like me and who don’t think like me.” “Just learning something that helps me understand a bit better why we’re all so different, because maybe we’re not as different as we think.”
Isaac Asimov called conversations where people connect and learn together “cerebrations” (yes, just one letter off from “celebrations”). The bridging conversations I’m talking about don’t party, exactly.
The anger and resentment tied into all this make it easier—way easier—to do something we do our darnedest to avoid: hate.
Ideological polarization is based on reason. Affective polarization is based on feelings. But false polarization? That’s just based on a lie.
“Our brains are most productive when there is no demand that they be reactive,”
“To know what has come before is to be armed against despair,”