I Love My Mother Too Much to Repeat Her Life
In this anxious inheritance from my mother and my grandmother, I’ve both under- and overcorrected. Most of what I provide to my kids is nurturance, care and a soft lap before bed. I have excellent paid help to address many of their practical needs. I indulge them a lot. They participate in zero extracurriculars and do not have great table manners.... See more
Elise Loehnen • Opinion | The Lies Mothers Tell Themselves and Their Children
... See moreAs the eldest daughter of an eldest daughter, my mom, I grew up seeing her slave away, holding her self-worth so tightly to how much of herself she could give up. No more, I say. Let me break the toxic cycle that has kept our inner child captive. I relieve myself of the illusion that everything, everyone, depends on me. I release the idea that I am