I Followed Common Advice for Making Friends. Then I Learned What It Really Takes.

how it’s critical to have people in your life who love you and see you when you’re fun and sparkly and on top of the world, but also love you when you’re stagnant and petulant and self-sabotaging and letting them down. It’s about how that kind of love makes you believe in other kinds of love. It’s about how the essential texture of life is, yes, ma

These processes also apply to friendships, of course. Friendships have to be created, and that means someone has to take the plunge and make an opening bid to establish interest.