
i asked @aweissman earlier this week “what is one framework you wish young people would stop using for decision-making?” he shared with me the concept of “ghosts and ancestors” which i havent been able to stop thinking about it he also wrote about it in 2019

‘History is haunting them boys, so they’re out on the street, haunting the city. We’re all haunted in some way. All my dance moves are my father’s.
Caleb Azumah Nelson • Small Worlds
How much of our lives, good and bad, should we credit to our personal decisions, and how much is just the inheritance of our culture, our families, and our parents who have failed their children? How much is Mom’s life her own fault? Where does blame stop and sympathy begin? All
J. D. Vance • Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis
Personal Renewal
There are three things we can do to ensure that the buck stops here with us in this lifetime, so future generations won’t have to deal with the same old ghosts: we can face our ancestral trauma, we can make art, and we can die well.
Mallorie Vaudoise • Honoring Your Ancestors: A Guide to Ancestral Veneration
But I'm inclined to think that we're all ghosts . . . it's not only the things that we've inherited from our fathers and mothers that live on in us, but all sorts of old dead ideas and old dead beliefs, and