How to talk to boys so they grow into better men

To love boys rightly we must value their inner lives enough to construct worlds, both private and public, where their right to wholeness can be consistently celebrated and affirmed, where their need to love and be loved can be fulfilled.

Connecting with men is essential for reclaiming masculinity. Building relationships with men requires a conscious effort. This process begins with a commitment to develop male friendships. In order to do this, recovering Nice Guys must be willing to make the time, take risks, and be vulnerable.

I would prefer to see a world in which a boy can identify as a boy but feel no pressure to be masculine at all. A world in which boys have the critical thinking skills and social permission to call out and challenge society’s expectations around masculinity in the same way that girls are learning to challenge the idea that femininity should be the

Where and how do boys learn what it means to be a man? They seem to learn it all too often from the mass media and from the most visible males in their community, particularly their peers. Boys’ friends are the arbitrators of what is masculine and what is feminine, so resilience among the boys in a community depends upon changing macho attitudes am