How to Take Things Personally
“First,” Avi said, as he turned from the board, “I should be on the lookout for blame and justification—for signs that I might be in a box. I can be on the lookout for signs of the various common boxes, for example—ways I’m feeling better than or entitled or worse than or anxious to be seen as.
The Arbinger Institute, • The Anatomy of Peace, Fourth Edition: Resolving the Heart of Conflict
A man knows he should speak up about the sexist behaviour of his coworkers, but doesn’t, because they’re his friends and he doesn’t want to make it awkward. A tenured professor is bothered by her colleague’s flirtatious remarks, but says nothing, because it would be awkward to bring it up. A person runs into a recently bereaved coworker, and wonder... See more