How to Take—And Give—Criticism Well
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How to Take—And Give—Criticism Well
If the criticism scores on the “best” end of the scale, accept it gracefully with an assertive “Thanks. I’ll give that some thought.” If the comment falls into the “worst” category, you can still be assertive, but you needn’t take it to heart: “That’s an interesting comment, but it doesn’t apply to me.” And remember that the criticism you offer to
... See moreMichael Emmons • Your Perfect Right: Assertiveness and Equality in Your Life and Relationships
J’ai le même genre de réactions réflexes quand on me critique. Mais je vais vous dire ce que j’ai appris. Tout le secret consiste à recevoir les commentaires comme un cadeau. Mais avant cela, il vous faut décider si ces commentaires sont pertinents. La manière dont je procède est de vérifier cela avec moi-même et de voir si cela colle avec ma propr
... See moreIrvin Yalom • La Méthode Schopenhauer (Littérature) (French Edition)
When sometime tells them “You suck at Y” and they genuinely care about Y, they ask five additional follow-ups: “What have you seen me do that makes you think so?” “What do you think will help me improve in Y?” “Who is excellent at Y that I can learn from?” “How do you assess at Y?” “Why is Y important to be good at?”
When giving feedback, don’t make it personal. Always comment on the work itself and not the individual who made it. If a participant takes a critique personally, they tend to shut down.