How to Stop Trying to Be Better
The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You're Suppose to Be and Embrace Who You Are: Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are
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Trying to be special, different, or better requires a lot of effort and thinking. It is based on dissatisfaction with your self, and such effortful thinking now adds stress to your dissatisfaction. Realizing the Principles allows you to accept the perfection of how you are at each moment.