It’s about life outlook. It’s not so much “I don’t want you to divorce me” but “I want you to be happily married to me.” Those are two totally different ideas. You’re not interested in white-knuckling it through until death does one of you part. You’re interested in having the best, most mutually enriching, joy-filled, good-sex-filled life with som

It’s easy to express commitment to a principle; it’s tougher, and more important, to ask yourself whether your actions demonstrate that commitment.

Often when we speak to people, we speak far too candidly to who they are, not who they want to be. Want to persuade someone? Speak to who they aspire or imagine themselves to be, not to who they actually are.

Your partner can’t hear what you don’t say, and vice versa. Ignorance is rarely bliss for long. If you care enough about your relationship to want to keep it, be sure you’re checking in with your partner on a regular basis.

If you’re just holding a grudge and upset with your spouse about something unrelated and it’s impossible to change or undo, tread lightly. We remember the complaints more vividly than the compliments.

Almost all of us wake up each of the 365 days a year, 366 in leap years, and decide to be who we were yesterday. And who we were the day before that, and the week before that, and probably the year before that.

Wait too long, and ignorance becomes evidence of something far more nefarious.

The traits you need to fix the marriage are, unfortunately, the traits that would have been required to prevent it from breaking in the first place.

This always seemed nonsensical to me: Why, of all the people on the planet, would the person you married be the one you always have to be singularly critical of? Why hold the person with whom you signed a lifetime commitment to such a specific and unreasonably high standard? How come we’re encouraged to give our friends a break and understand that