Ask for things that feel unreasonable , to make sure your intuitions about what’s reasonable are accurate (of course, try not to be a jerk in the process). If you’re only asking for things you get, you’re not aiming high enough.”

Reach out to people who have your dream jobs, who make your favorite recipes, who write inspiring essays you love. Reach out to people you are genuinely curious about. Reach out to people you think you’ll vibe with, even if it seems unrelated. A lot of the time, their emails are right there. Their dms are wide open. Building a good network is not... See more

I promise your best connections will come when you strip away everything performative you’ve been taught about how to build a network.