How to Make Unfixated Choices

valid choices when made deliberately. The key is to remain open to cues that suggest a need for a change in your thinking.

Breathe. Slow. Observe. Break the link between sensation and reaction. Breathe into the gap between them. Blind reaction is attachment. Blind reaction is slavery. Freedom exists in the gap. Choice exists in the gap. I exist in the gap. Let go of attachment to my fear, he told himself. Let go of attachment to myself.

To be aware, notice where our mind is going, then direct it. The larger our capacity, the more space we can create between stimulus and response.

the life-enhancing route is to think of decisions not as things that come along, but as things to go hunting for. In other words: to operate on the assumption that somewhere, in the confusing morass of your work or your life, lurks at least one decision you could make, right now, in order to get unstuck and get moving.

Being proactive empowers us to choose our thoughts and actions. As we take control of our actions and our responses to people and to our circumstances, we will be happier, healthier, more motivated, less stressed, and better able to communicate and solve problems. We choose to write the scripts by which we live our life. With self-awareness, we can