How to Keep House While Drowning

Care tasks should be divided in such a way that there is time for everyone to rest and keep the home functioning.

When I viewed getting my life together as a way for trying to atone for the sin of falling apart, I stayed stuck in a shame-fueled cycle of performance, perfectionism, and failure.

The point of having a body is to carry yourself from joyful experience to joyful experience.

Not everything has to be clean at the same time.

will look like that again tomorrow only if I clean it today. If I don’t clean it, it will be even more messy because we live here and we create mess.

What is one thing you could do for yourself today that would be truly enjoyable for tomorrow you?

In addiction recovery, as in most of life, success depends not on having strong willpower, but in developing mental and emotional tools to help you experience the world differently.

There is a big difference between being on a journey of worthiness and being on a journey of care.

Internalizing this belief will help you a) shift your perspective of care tasks from a moral obligation to a functional errand, b) see what changes you actually want to make, and c) weave them into your life with minimal effort, relying not on self-loathing but on self-compassion.