You do not have to earn the right to rest, connect, or recreate. Unlearn the idea that care tasks must be totally complete before you can sit down.

Care tasks exist for one reason only… to make your body and space functional enough for you to easily experience the joy this world has to offer.

There is a big difference between being on a journey of worthiness and being on a journey of care.

Framing it as kindness instead of failure was the key to being able to wake up and choose to get things done the next day.

Sometimes you may not get up even with the change in self-talk. But you know what? You weren’t getting up when you were being mean to yourself either, so at least you can be nice to yourself. No one ever shamed themselves into better mental health.

Individual capacity is shaped by biology, psychology, and environment.

You don’t exist to serve your space; your space exists to serve you.

Cleaning My Kitchen 1. Health and Safety: I need to prevent bugs, bacteria, and mold from spreading or growing. 2. Comfort: I want to have plenty of space to cook and do my hobbies on the kitchen island. It’s easy to sit down for family dinner when the table is clear. 3. Happiness: I like the way my kitchen looks when the counters are clear.

A really common defeating message that we say to ourselves is “What’s the point of picking up? It’s just going to look like this again tomorrow.” I find this stems from that binary view of care tasks that they can be only either done or not done and that done is the superior state. But keeping everything done isn’t the point. Keeping things