How to Keep House While Drowning

The point of having a body is to carry yourself from joyful experience to joyful experience.

What is one thing you could do for yourself today that would be truly enjoyable for tomorrow you?

will look like that again tomorrow only if I clean it today. If I don’t clean it, it will be even more messy because we live here and we create mess.

Care tasks should be divided in such a way that there is time for everyone to rest and keep the home functioning.

Internalizing this belief will help you a) shift your perspective of care tasks from a moral obligation to a functional errand, b) see what changes you actually want to make, and c) weave them into your life with minimal effort, relying not on self-loathing but on self-compassion.

When I viewed getting my life together as a way for trying to atone for the sin of falling apart, I stayed stuck in a shame-fueled cycle of performance, perfectionism, and failure.

Not everything has to be clean at the same time.

As you embark on this journey I invite you to remember these words: “slow,” “quiet,” “gentle.”

Motivation means a desire or drive to do something and a recognition that you see that thing as worth doing.