How to Keep House While Drowning

When I viewed getting my life together as a way for trying to atone for the sin of falling apart, I stayed stuck in a shame-fueled cycle of performance, perfectionism, and failure.

There is a big difference between being on a journey of worthiness and being on a journey of care.

Motivation means a desire or drive to do something and a recognition that you see that thing as worth doing.

Care tasks should be divided in such a way that there is time for everyone to rest and keep the home functioning.

a system never becomes easy or automatic for you, then it just means either the system isn’t the right one for you or you need more tips and tools to get the system to work. The issue is never that you are failing or not good enough.

As you embark on this journey I invite you to remember these words: “slow,” “quiet,” “gentle.”

Internalizing this belief will help you a) shift your perspective of care tasks from a moral obligation to a functional errand, b) see what changes you actually want to make, and c) weave them into your life with minimal effort, relying not on self-loathing but on self-compassion.

The point of having a body is to carry yourself from joyful experience to joyful experience.

You don’t exist to serve your space; your space exists to serve you.