A really common defeating message that we say to ourselves is “What’s the point of picking up? It’s just going to look like this again tomorrow.” I find this stems from that binary view of care tasks that they can be only either done or not done and that done is the superior state. But keeping everything done isn’t the point. Keeping things functio

For example, the care task of feeding yourself involves more than just putting food into your mouth. You must also make time to figure out the nutritional needs and preferences of everyone you’re feeding, plan and execute a shopping trip, decide how you’re going to prepare that food and set aside the time to do so, and ensure that mealtimes come at

This list is here to serve me; I do not serve this list. This schedule is here to make my life easier, not to make it harder. The schedule isn’t for telling me what I must do or reminding me about what I haven’t done. The way it serves me each day is by taking the burden of decision-making away. I don’t have to feel as though I have to clean everyt

Sometimes you may not get up even with the change in self-talk. But you know what? You weren’t getting up when you were being mean to yourself either, so at least you can be nice to yourself. No one ever shamed themselves into better mental health.

Instead of “I need to finish this” or even “I need to start this,” begin to say to yourself, “How can I move towards this task?”

As you embark on this journey I invite you to remember these words: “slow,” “quiet,” “gentle.”

Floors 1. Health and Safety: I need to remove tripping hazards and prevent bugs, mold, and bacteria from spreading or growing. 2. Comfort: I want room for kids to play; I don’t like bits of dirt sticking to my feet when I am barefoot. 3. Happiness: I like the way the room looks when the floors are clean and mopped. Feels peaceful.

a system never becomes easy or automatic for you, then it just means either the system isn’t the right one for you or you need more tips and tools to get the system to work. The issue is never that you are failing or not good enough.

Cleaning My Kitchen 1. Health and Safety: I need to prevent bugs, bacteria, and mold from spreading or growing. 2. Comfort: I want to have plenty of space to cook and do my hobbies on the kitchen island. It’s easy to sit down for family dinner when the table is clear. 3. Happiness: I like the way my kitchen looks when the counters are clear.