How To Do The Work: Recognise Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

cycles of human emotions can be addicting too. Emotional addiction is particularly powerful when we habitually seek or avoid certain emotional states as a way to cope with trauma.

discipline becomes confidence, and confidence becomes change, and change becomes transformation.

vagus nerve, is yoga. Dr. Porges is also a huge advocate of yoga (he’s written extensively about its benefits on vagal tone in academic journals). Yoga engages both the mind and body by combining the regulatory power of our breath with movement.

Having a Parent Who Denies Your Reality

In childhood, you learn emotional regulation by watching how your parent-figure(s) express their feelings (or don’t) and by the way they respond when you express yours.

THE POTENTIAL FOR CHANGE

Creating artificial alternation between danger and safety in a fun and open space ultimately ‘improves the efficiency of the neural circuit that can instantaneously down regulate fight/flight behaviors,’ wrote

This loss of Self can manifest in a number of ways in adulthood, and I’ve seen it play out most often as either severe indecisiveness and procrastination or as an obsessive need to succeed.

People pleasing. Once you meet the demand, the stress is (temporarily) gone. Anger or rage. If you can discharge the emotion onto someone else, you’ve released it.