How To Do The Work: Recognise Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

herself to drink one glass of water every morning before her coffee. At first, she felt silly. How can one glass of water change my life? Still, she set a reminder on her phone at 6:45 a.m. to drink that water and followed up dutifully.

truly change, you have to learn who you really are – and a part of this includes meeting your inner child.

this restful place. Try to limit your alcohol and caffeine consumption to certain hours (preferably stop drinking alcohol three hours before bed and limit coffee to before noon). Maintaining a consistent

Having a Parent Who Denies Your Reality

The seesawing made her distrust herself,

aloofness was a coping strategy, my mind’s protection from the stress: I would detach, distance myself, get into my ‘spaceship’. I was so disengaged from myself, so far away on that spaceship, that ultimately I stored very few memories from my childhood

Not being able to control their own feelings about a particular experience, the parent-figure shuts down and shuts out their children.

This begins a lifelong practise of believing that receiving love is conditional on

The most significant imprinting comes from the people we are most bonded to: our parent-figures.