hypervigilance required to maintain masculine performance.

"Masculinity is much more rigid and requires constant self-regulation... Even if a man squats three hundred pounds, biting into beef jerky with one hand and fighting a hungry bear with the other, his masculinity would still be put into question for ordering a drink that comes in a cosmo

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What is this thing we’re trying to be? I resist writing about masculinity just as I resist taking aspirin for a headache that has plagued me, on and off, all week. Even as I seek to undermine the social power that feminism has shown me I have—even as I apologize for interrupting, seek out the role of second fiddle, quiet my ego—my masculinity, in... See more