Saved by Hannah Zumwalt and
how to avoid half-heartedness
I know that limerence can be misleading. It can be the beginning of a good relationship, or a complete disaster. If someone feels like the answer to the question of your life, you might want to address the fundamental sense of lack that they are triggering.
Sasha Chapin • 50 Things I Know
So I was reading this Substack article about stop living with the expectations while also not leaving with your fantasy :
and i came across this
“This isn’t another voice trying to fix you or fix your future. I’m just offering a moment. A reflection. A small truth I’ve learned the hard way: don’t chase the idea of love.
Don’t build your identity
... See moreI think that people come alive when they’re serious about what they love—when they choose to pay careful attention to what feeds and sustains them. I love this one Heather Havrilesky line about how crushes are often just misplaced ambition. Of course crushes are more than that—they’re about nostalgia and magic and futures we’ll never access—but I... See more