How Living Apart Together Is Changing Long-Term Relationships

Why do we still pedestal romantic love?

I believe romance should be a by-product of living within community, not the holy grail of relationships.

Nadia Meli

Nov 04, 2024

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My friend was dating a man for a couple of months over the summer. They met with him once a week, every week - until they had to... See more

Relationships that last over time acquire their own unique persona. There are two people (more if there are children) together who form the relationship, as well as each of these people on their own, as individuals. The relationship, or family, actually has a character of its own that may not accurately reflect the people in it. This composite and

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Franz vivait une relation indéfinissable. Sa copine était une magnétiseuse très portée sur la spiritualité, ils étaient ensemble depuis huit ans. Tous deux se voyaient rarement, accaparés par leurs activités respectives. « On doit se voir quelques mois par an, des périodes pendant lesquelles on ne se quitte pas. Sinon, chacun fait sa vie ! » J’avai

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Loving another without losing ourselves is the central dilemma of intimacy. Our ability to negotiate the dual needs for connection and autonomy stems from what we learned as children, and often takes a lifetime of practice. It affects not only how we love but also how we make love. Erotic intimacy holds the double promise of finding oneself and los

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Was I a good partner, or was I a bad partner? Did I hurt him, or did he hurt me? Was the great tragedy of our relationship that we’d been doomed from the start, or that we veered off track somewhere, quietly, imperceptibly, and were too far gone by the time we’d realized it? On some days, I was certain that he hadn’t loved me enough; on others, I w... See more