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The more hours you’ve put into this chaotic business of living, the more you crave a quieter, more nurturing third thing, I think. This needn’t mean dull. The friends I have now, who’ve come all this distance, who are part of my aging plan, include all kinds of joyous goofballs and originals. There’s loads of open country between enervation and int... See more

So I’m taking my belated gap year, I’m “dropping out” of the tech career ladder. At some point you run out of excuses (save more money, figure out immigration stuff, also these layoffs, also the uncertainty, and what if you just spiral, or what if you fail, blah blah blah). By the end it felt less like a decision and more like an inevitab

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There has also been so much unforeseen beauty when I embrace the path of lesser resistance and remain curious and engaged with the world around me rather than feeling guilty I can’t seem to conjure my former decisiveness the majority of self-help advice favours. Maybe living with the end of the story in mind inhibits us from really experiencing lif... See more