So, our crushes often exist to tell us what we are looking for within ourselves. They tell us where our ambition is pointing. And that's quite useful. Because if you don't think you know what you want, or where you want to go, or what you want to do, or what you want to be more of, just look at your crushes:

What do they all have in common that... See more

Crushes can be more about projection than attraction.

Hallstrom-Conkright emphasizes that we often project a series of valued attributes onto an individual and then attach strong positive feelings to the image we created. Projections can be complicated and irrational, and the feelings resulting from these projections can be quite dramatic. She adds... See more

I know that limerence can be misleading. It can be the beginning of a good relationship, or a complete disaster. If someone feels like the answer to the question of your life, you might want to address the fundamental sense of lack that they are triggering.