Healing the Shame That Binds You

He goes on to say that without feeling, nothing matters, and with feeling, anything can matter.

The problem of toxic shame is ultimately a spiritual problem.

The job of parents is to model. Modeling includes how to be a man or woman; how to relate intimately to another person; how to acknowledge and express emotions; how to fight fairly; how to have physical, emotional and intellectual boundaries; how to communicate; how to cope and survive life’s unending problems; how to be self-disciplined; and how t

Toxic shame is unbearable and always necessitates a cover-up, a false self. Since one feels his true self is defective and flawed, one needs a false self that is not defective and flawed.

When we are exposed without any way to protect ourselves, we feel the pain of shame. If we are continually overexposed, shame becomes toxic.

there two forms of shame: innate shame and toxic/life-destroying shame.

In my own case it has taken me a lot of work to connect with my own true feelings—my anger, jealousy, loneliness or sadness. The good news is that I have been able to do it. Being disconnected from our feelings is the result of abandonment.

Giving and receiving unconditional love is the most effective and powerful way to personal wholeness and happiness.

It is a healthy human feeling that can become a true sickness of the soul.