Gillian Anderson on her book about sexual fantasies

WHAT DO WE want when we want to have sex? More starkly: what are we hoping for when we imagine happiness looks like having as much sex as possible?

The mind wants orgasm and creates fantasy to satisfy its desire.

He could recognize what Leslie Jamison calls that “narrowing of repertoire” that nonetheless comes with widening expectations. This helped explain his disappointment and exhaustion. Because the satisfaction of sexual hunger was really a way of trying to stave off a more fundamental, transcendent hunger, it meant he was always expecting too much, as

WHAT DO WE want when we want to have sex? More starkly: what are we hoping for when we imagine happiness looks like having as much sex as possible?

Sex is that paradoxical combination of vulnerability and assertion, giving ourselves up and wanting all the more.

There is a sensual and textured land within yourself that you have been craving to touch and explore for eons.