In short, our thinking about gathering—when we gather and why—has become muddled. When we do gather, we too often use a template of gathering (what we assume a gathering should look like) to substitute for our thinking. The art of gathering begins with purpose: When should we gather? And why?

this abdication often fails their guests rather than serves them.

You will have begun to gather with purpose when you learn to exclude with purpose. When you learn to close doors.