Modern relationships are cauldrons of contradictory longings: safety and excitement, grounding and transcendence, the comfort of love and the heat of passion. We want it all, and we want it with one person. Reconciling the domestic and the erotic is a delicate balancing act that we achieve intermittently at best. It requires knowing your partner... See more

What are the essential blocks to building a strong foundation between partners and establishing balance for longevity?-Not everything must be said-The combination of empathy and responsibility is very important-Be able to see things from your partners point of view, while also being able to take responsibility for things-The ability to navigate... See more

Paradoxes are capable of holding seemingly opposing facts and deeper levels of complexity which, in my experience, are often closer to reality. And yes, they can be uncomfortable, too. And even just naming that we hold these paradoxes can soften something inside. The idea of ‘wrongness’ can give way to more curiosity and compassion. For example:

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