Frientimacy: How to Deepen Friendships for Lifelong Health and Happiness

In the second stage, CHAOS, the façade has faded and we see more clearly the person’s imperfections

What is clear is that this gap is a cultural problem.

Serving from commitment: As our commitment to our friends increases, we often will expand our time together from just having fun to also helping each other. We

Knowing myself: “How easy is it for me to own what I’m feeling? How often do I practice telling others my real feelings? How often do I ask for what I need?” • New activities: “Do I generate ideas of things to do? Do I extend additional invitations even if others don’t initiate as often as I do?” • Expanding conversation: “How often do I ask though

a mere lack of negativity, while not discouraging per se, nonetheless doesn’t encourage us to lean in to a relationship.

simultaneously initiating new activities, expanding conversations, shining in front of each other, and sharing shame and insecurity.

MOODS: If your time together often focuses on complaining or venting, ask her what she’s enjoying in her life these days. If the time together is always polite and cheerful, consider sharing an area that’s causing stress in your life.

One of the most undervalued acts of vulnerability is supporting each other’s success in this world.

We feel like we have threads reaching out to many people, but that those very strands aren’t woven together to create a net that will hold us.

BUILDERS are friends who motivate you, invest in your development, and truly want you to succeed