Free to Attach

Love, we recognize that the fear of letting people down keeps us trapped and unable to heal and live a life that is our own.

Attachment likes to impersonate love. It says, “I will love you if you give me what I need.” Love is focused on generosity; attachment is obsessed with getting needs met. Love is an expression of our most essential nature; attachment is an expression of the personality. Love engenders faithfulness, aligning with our values, moving with purpose; att

Attachment and dependence occur because we feel incomplete within ourselves; therefore, we seek objects, people, relationships, places, and concepts to fulfill inner needs.

Once we understand that love is our true identity, we realize that the skill of learning to love is mostly an undoing of the ego obstructions that have gradually overlaid our natural tendency toward loving. This means letting go of our ego entitlements and inflations. We then look for all the practices that can help that happen, especially those th

All efforts to clutch and smother the people in our lives in order to fill our own need for love and attention inevitably end up working against those relationships. So what can you do to change this? One word: Release.

In a love relationship, it often makes them reluctant to surrender into loving deeply and unconditionally. They are unconsciously afraid that unrestrained love will once again cost them their autonomy and obligate them to do whatever the Beloved says.15