Figure That Shift Out

Take a tense, stressful, or frustrating moment and consider what you may have insecurely wanted to prove or hide. The more you can learn to notice this in the smallest of moments the more your brain will attune to deeper awareness.

Am I worth more as a human being if we stay in our house? Am I worth less as a human being if we have to leave our house? I pictured us leaving. I pictured us staying. I felt the failure of the eviction and noticed the emotions. I mentally pushed myself to imagine the worst and best scenario. Mentally, I contrasted the negative and positive to see

You can reach out to your lost children. You can start validating their heart rather than stressing over their performance.

The hills of life come. A lot of us stuff those questions down. Then things usually start to crack apart as if life is trying to seize our attention. Instead of taking time to pay attention to the key questions, we usually try some distracting intervention. A new relationship, a new purchase, or an off-the-wall decision hides the fact we’re graspin

Living your life out of a secure identity produces flow. Fear blocks flow.

“I don’t belong anywhere.” If this is your fear, you are constantly looking for a place to call home. You hope that finally, this will be the relationship where you can be fully known for who you are. Or finally, this job or role will be your tribe.

Downshifting isn’t just important when we’re driving uphill. The highest performing drivers in the world use downshifting all the time. They downshift to accelerate momentum in sharp turns and to navigate in and out of heavy traffic. They also downshift to save wear and tear on their brakes.

The more you know and pay attention to your emotional state, the more your work and leadership will flow from an authentic place, and the more you will be able to pay attention to others and lead in a healthy and empowered way. You have to tell yourself, “I’m not going to be dominated by my emotions, nor am I going to deny them. I’m going to be awa

Eventually you will gain deep clarity on what that one fear is for you and you will recognize proving and hiding in the small moments.