Analyze. Sit with it. Don’t force it. Stay alert and know that your brain wants to remove dissonance. It wants a story. Your brain will even force a false one to make you feel better.

When you face that kind of humiliation, you have to learn who you are. On those hills of life you have to shift into first gear, and if you don’t, you’re stuck.

You can reach out to your lost children. You can start validating their heart rather than stressing over their performance.

More intensity isn’t going to fix your problem. More intensity won’t get you off the hill.

If I were to ask my wife, “Did you know when I’m overcommitted, I start to get uptight and frustrated at little things?” She’s not going to say, “I don’t know what you mean.” These people are already seeing your behavior. It’s time for you to see it.

Sometimes you will hide behind some sort of religious thinking, or false thinking in your leadership that makes you believe if you do A and B then you will get C.

“I don’t belong anywhere.” If this is your fear, you are constantly looking for a place to call home. You hope that finally, this will be the relationship where you can be fully known for who you are. Or finally, this job or role will be your tribe.

Am I worth more as a human being if we stay in our house? Am I worth less as a human being if we have to leave our house? I pictured us leaving. I pictured us staying. I felt the failure of the eviction and noticed the emotions. I mentally pushed myself to imagine the worst and best scenario. Mentally, I contrasted the negative and positive to see

You’re looking for places where the needs of your identity may have been actively violated or passively neglected.