Love can bring us happiness and peace as long as we love in such a way that we don’t make a net to confine ourselves and others. We can tell the correct way to love because, when we love correctly, we don’t create more suffering.

Fear and desire are connected. Out of our original fear came a desire for the person who made us feel comfortable and safe. An infant feels, “I’m helpless; I have no means to take care of myself. I’m vulnerable. I need someone, otherwise I’ll die.”

Blinded by attachment, sooner or later we fall into sensual love. Anxiety mounts day by day, just as water fills a pond drop by drop.

We are all motivated by love. Love can be our greatest joy or—when it gets confused with craving and attachment—our greatest suffering.

Otherwise, the union of two bodies becomes very monotonous after a time. Even when we’re with our partner, we continue to have the feeling of being alone. So we look for another person to be with.

We can only dispel our mutual isolation when we practice mindfulness and are able to truly come home to ourselves and each other.

Our feeling leads to a perception.

Sometimes you’re fearful, but you don’t know why. The Buddha says the reason you’re fearful is because you’re still craving.

“My dear sensual love, I know your root. You come from desire based on my wrong perceptions. But now I don’t have that craving, and you can’t touch me. Even if you are there, you can’t pull me. I don’t have any more wishes, and I have no more wrong perceptions about you. So how can you arise?”