Fidelity: How to Create a Loving Relationship That Lasts

You should have a chance to observe him when he sleeps. Look deeply, and see the tenderness that is revealed, the suffering, the hope, the despair that can be expressed during sleep. Sit there for fifteen minutes or half an hour, and just look.

Happiness depends first of all on having the deep desire for happiness, and then on having a spiritual path to follow. Every day, do some little thing on that path, and you will be happy. Don’t try to do big things.

You have to learn how to be comfortable with yourself and focus on making your own home within.

Love has its roots to some extent in sensual desire. Sensual desire has the capacity to become love in all of us.

True love doesn’t contain suffering or attachment.

All of us feel lonely and empty inside sometimes. When we have these feelings, we try to fill the vacuum by consuming food or alcohol, or by engaging in sexual activity.

There are times when we suffer and we don’t know why. We don’t know the nature of the suffering.

Both people have to heal on their own so they feel at ease in themselves; then they can become a home for each other. Otherwise, all that we share in physical intimacy is our loneliness and suffering.

This often happens when we go looking for an affair or a relationship. We think that because we find someone attractive, they have some kind of purity that is meaningful to us. But every person is made up of the pure and the impure, garbage as well as flowers.

“My suffering, I know you are there. I have come home, and I will take care of you.”