Fidelity: How to Create a Loving Relationship That Lasts

Whenever you find yourself judging your partner, go back to your in-breath and out-breath, and ask, “How can I see this differently? Can I look more deeply to better understand her suffering and her difficulties?”

Inside each of us is a great being, someone peaceful, full of light, understanding, and compassion. This person carries a sword of understanding that cuts through the bonds of suffering. With great understanding, we see the way out of our bondage. We discover the lightness and compassion necessary to love someone else. We can awaken this great pers

We start with understanding our own suffering and discovering what causes our own craving. This helps us to transform and to not reproach or hate any longer.

Happiness depends first of all on having the deep desire for happiness, and then on having a spiritual path to follow. Every day, do some little thing on that path, and you will be happy. Don’t try to do big things.

Otherwise, the union of two bodies becomes very monotonous after a time. Even when we’re with our partner, we continue to have the feeling of being alone. So we look for another person to be with.

When we see a form or hear a sound, we recognize it and we have a feeling and a perception about it.

All of us feel lonely and empty inside sometimes. When we have these feelings, we try to fill the vacuum by consuming food or alcohol, or by engaging in sexual activity.

There are times when we suffer and we don’t know why. We don’t know the nature of the suffering.

Very few people know how to see love and romance in terms of impermanence and nonself. Realizing nonself, we can see ourselves in our beloveds, and see them in ourselves. At that point we become healthy, light, and happy.

Loneliness can only be healed by understanding and love.