On the other hand, there are few things as fulfilling as that sense of being seen and understood. I often ask people to tell me about times they’ve felt seen, and with glowing eyes they tell me stories about pivotal moments in their life. They talk about a time when someone perceived some talent in them that they themselves weren’t even able to

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They made you feel like you mattered just by how they looked at you.

And isn’t that what we all want?

To be looked at like we matter.

To be spoken to with softness.

To be remembered without reminding.

To be understood without having to explain every crack in our voice.

So, what if you became that person?

remembering the little, seemingly insignificant things people have told you, and referencing back to them later, is a quiet way of saying “i know you, and i care.” and that is beautiful. to be loved is to be known.