There is no way to give kindness to another without knowing it in ourselves first. We must continually ask ourselves (especially on our tough days when we are feeling the most hurt or irritated): Is this the kindest thought I could have? Is this the kindest thing I could say? Is this the kindest action I could take in this situation? To achieve a

Do you suppose that the failure reveals something about your inadequacy or incompetence as a person? Do you notice any shame or hopelessness associated with that? What coping strategies tend to follow that self-criticism? How does that impact on your original goals? Think of a time when you failed at something and someone responded to you with

Have Compassion for Them