Touch her only once and withdraw. Take your time before doing any regular stroking. We have found that instead of a stroke, a gentle pressing against the clitoris causes less fear and anxiety.

Fisher argues that our ancient female ancestors benefited by getting another person to help feed them and their children. They traded sex for food, assistance, and protection. To gain the best and most protein for themselves and their children, women who could have the most sex survived and were the most fit to reproduce again. Their children also

the female orgasm constitutes, on average, nine to twelve contractions and lasts a few seconds after a long arousal period.

our senses work by noticing differences. If differences don’t occur, we don’t sense anything.

What you are left with, once you have removed envy and exclusion, is tumescence, the sexual energy that can be used for great orgasms. This heightened energy is too strong for many people to handle pleasurably, and that is why a lot of people fight to bring the energy down to a more comfortable level before they have sex. If you can channel this

Rub the two areas synchronously: use the same speed and direction of stroke, let your stroke cover the same sized area, etc. After a while, lift your finger just slightly from the secondary area.

Even the word foreplay implies that activity before intercourse is just work that has to be done in order to reach the really fun, “play” part of sex. In reality, the whole experience can be the fun part, and that is the goal of the true sensualist. In the rest of this book, we’ve used sexuality and sensuality interchangeably, because we don’t

You will have to re-educate or recondition yourself as well as your lover to relax rather than tense. Every time she tenses, gently tell her to relax. You can tell her to push out, which helps people relax; when they tense up, they are usually pulling in.

An important part of women’s sensual and emotional appetites is their ability to consume. To consume something well is to appreciate it to its fullest value. Of course, appreciation has to be genuine.