the best, most efficient way to give her such an orgasm is to take control of the nervous system via doing. Her excess energy during this time is the fuel for a great orgasm. The increased genital engorgement she’s experiencing can be thought of as potential orgasm instead of potential pain.

Talking is a good way to keep your mind on what you are doing and keep yourself in the present moment. As long as you talk about what you’re doing, what you’re feeling, and what you notice about your partner, your attention is on your current actions. In some meditation retreats, participants must take a vow of silence. In the “Zen of doing,” by co

What you are left with, once you have removed envy and exclusion, is tumescence, the sexual energy that can be used for great orgasms. This heightened energy is too strong for many people to handle pleasurably, and that is why a lot of people fight to bring the energy down to a more comfortable level before they have sex. If you can channel this en

our senses work by noticing differences. If differences don’t occur, we don’t sense anything.

The more connections a person has developed between different erogenous zones, the more she or he can enjoy touching her or his partner. For example, a woman or a man who has connected facial lips to genitals will enjoy giving head or performing cunnilingus more, not to mention kissing.

Masturbation, Tantra and Self Love, says that the word masturbation comes from the Latin man(u)sturprare. Manu means “hand,” and stuprum means “dishonor, defilement, a disgrace.” Turbare is also part of this word; in relation to stuprum, it means “to disturb, confuse.”1 It’s related to the words stupid and stupefaction.

Pushing out is also beneficial during intercourse. Usually, arousal causes the vaginal walls to balloon out, which tends to shorten the vagina. This can cause the penis to bang against the cervix, which is not only unpleasant but also possibly painful. Pushing out prevents this, and it collapses the vaginal walls so that they touch the penis on all

An important part of women’s sensual and emotional appetites is their ability to consume. To consume something well is to appreciate it to its fullest value. Of course, appreciation has to be genuine.

With someone who comes well you can use the added technique of communicating your intention of taking her higher.