Existential Kink: Unmask Your Shadow and Embrace Your Power (A method for getting what you want by getting off on what you don't)

the practice of Existential Kink is the work of becoming attuned to practical magic; you decide to fully incarnate, to agree fully to be who you already are, however messy or stinky that may be—with no reservation, no hold-back, no “if-only,” no judgment, no shame. And in dropping your resistance and negative judgment, you bring yourself fully into

We humans tend to fiercely defend our identities as being “somehow separate and lacking” and feel deeply suspicious of any set of circumstances that would dare hint that we're actually whole and wondrous. By imagining myself being paid “staggering sums” for my work, I practiced being willing to experience the sensations of being highly valued. And

because I have deep fear that if I'm that rich I won't have a right to pout about anything anymore.

in Existential Kink we focus on delving into taboo territories of our unconscious minds and learn to stay present with the high sensation there, in a way that transmutes the previously-stuck energy into free awareness.

because I have deep fear that receiving that much valuing would threaten my story about myself (that I'm bad, dubious, wrong).

and of course perception is shaped by our habitual (which is to say unconscious) attitude.

The more you give yourself permission to be shameless, the more the channel of communication between your conscious and unconscious mind opens, and the more effectively you can generate positive results. You are the only one who can grant this permission, at the level of your actual agency.

Likewise, in Existential Kink we focus on delving into taboo territories of our unconscious minds and learn to stay present with the high sensation there, in a way that transmutes the previously-stuck energy into free awareness.

I suggest that you create a spatial container for this work by going into a comfortable room where you can close the door and not be disturbed. I also suggest that you create a temporal container for this work by setting a timer for fifteen minutes and lighting a candle and/or burning some incense. If incense smoke doesn't agree with

And if you're curious as to what you unconsciously want, you don't need thirty years of psychoanalysis to figure it out: you can just take a look at what you currently have in your life and know that that's exactly what your unconscious wants, because what your unconscious wants, it gets. This is something we'll discuss more in a bit.