Everything that turned out well in my life followed the same design process

The opposite of an unfolding is a vision. A vision springs, not from a careful understanding of a context, but from a fantasy

If you want to find a good design—be that the design of a house or an essay, a career or a marriage—what you want is some process that allows you to extract information from the context, and bake it into the form. That is what unfolding is.