Everything That Turned Out Well in My Life Followed the Same Design Process

If you want to find a good design—be that the design of a house or an essay, a career or a marriage—what you want is some process that allows you to extract information from the context, and bake it into the form. That is what unfolding is.

The useful thing about defining good design as a form-context fit is that it tells you where you will find the form. The form is in the context.

To find a good relationship, you do not start by saying, “I want a relationship that looks like this”—that would be starting in the wrong end, by defining form. Instead you say, “I’m just going to pay atten... See more