It doesn’t have a beginning, a middle, and end. It’s not a throughline to a destination. It is, instead, a series of tangents, explorations, questions, mistakes, overlaps — and moments of sudden and glimmering insight.

Pleasure isn’t a story. Pleasure isn’t even an orgasm. It’s a conversation.

pleasure is : the communication between your body and the world.

romance and sex are really just two people trying to understand and enter each other’s realities

Real sex is not a story; it is something which exists within itself, folding and unfolding around itself. It is less a structure, more a melting.

A fake orgasm happens because it needs to happen, because we don’t know what to say, because we don’t know how to get across what we want.

Sensuality, Baldwin wrote, requires presence. When you distrust your own desires, when your body is unfamiliar to you, how can you ever hope to be present with, to connect with someone else?

The longer you spend in false pleasure, the more it feels like the real thing.

Everything is a fake orgasm now: everything is effect over experience.