Esther Perel Thinks All This Amateur Therapy-Speak Is Just Making Us Lonelier
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Esther Perel Thinks All This Amateur Therapy-Speak Is Just Making Us Lonelier
Of course, therapy and its vernacular are not solely to blame for our era of isolation. Rather, therapy and other tools of introspection have become ways to justify our lack of access to external stimulation. Instead of using therapy to untangle our desires and fears so that we may effectively act on them, therapy becomes the goal in itself—to crea... See more
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