This leap entails a loss of control that we’re taught from a very young age to guard against. We are socialized to tame our primal side: our unruly impulses, our sexual urges, and our rapacious appetites. Social order is built on this restraint, and lack thereof threatens to create chaos. Because loss of control is almost exclusively seen in a nega

To understand sexual ennui and misunderstanding, we have to identify the forces that create and sustain sexual excitement as well as those that diminish it. It seems apparent that there are “natural” or universal tendencies for sexual intensity to decline over time in a long-term relationship.