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Esther Perel — The Erotic Is an Antidote to Death
When something stirs beneath reason. When you want something – or someone – without being able to explain why, and you choose to move toward it. That is the erotic decision. The moment that cracks open the script you have been given and offers you, terrifyingly, an alternative. Not necessarily better, certainly not safer.... but alive . And that is... See more
Tamara • Erotic Decisions
Renowned therapist Esther Perel also speaks of the chasm between our wish for security and our hunger for excitement. The erotic equation seems to be the answer to our problems, but she acknowledges that knowing this is one thing, while what do we do about it is a whole other dynamic. Through this book we will come back to this quandary in many way
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When we live outside ourselves, and by that I mean on external directives only rather than from our internal knowledge and needs, when we live away from those erotic guides from within ourselves, then our lives are limited by external and alien forms, and we conform to the needs of a structure that is not based on human need, let alone an individua... See more
Audre Lorde. • Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power
In a world where so many long-term relationships suffer much more from monotony and habituation than from unsettling feelings like jealousy, this erotic wrath may serve a purpose, if we are willing to bear the attendant vulnerability.
Esther Perel • The State Of Affairs: Rethinking Infidelity - a book for anyone who has ever loved
Modern relationships are cauldrons of contradictory longings: safety and excitement, grounding and transcendence, the comfort of love and the heat of passion. We want it all, and we want it with one person. Reconciling the domestic and the erotic is a delicate balancing act that we achieve intermittently at best. It requires knowing your partner wh... See more
Esther Perel • Mating in Captivity
Loving another without losing ourselves is the central dilemma of intimacy. Our ability to negotiate the dual needs for connection and autonomy stems from what we learned as children, and often takes a lifetime of practice. It affects not only how we love but also how we make love. Erotic intimacy holds the double promise of finding oneself and los
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