Erotic Orientation: Helping Couples and Individuals Understand Their Sexual Lives

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This talk about infidelity must happen in a controlled situation, i.e. in the presence of a therapist, or in some other ritualized and controlled setting or healing space.

“The dilemmas of love and desire are way too complex to yield simple answers of good and bad, victim and perpetrator, right and wrong.”

Our erotic orientation—our behaviors, fantasies, and preferences—do not always match up with the society’s (or our own) expectations about someone’s sexual orientation.

Asking for an appointment with a partner to talk about the topic and putting time limits on the conversation are helpful to keeping things contained and effective in communication.

Porn can certainly be used “instead of” a partner though. But then it is a relationship or attachment problem, not a porn problem.

To avoid having those conversations people “act out” their fantasies and sexual desires and even romantic desires with someone for whom it won’t matter if they are judged or criticized.

“What is the content of the porn bringing up for each of you?” Both have given the porn a meaning, and I hold the value of that meaning in high regard for both.

Jack Morin, author of The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment, invites people to explore their peak sexual experiences, favorite masturbation fantasies, and the pornography they choose to read and watch.