Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts. A lifetime of love is created every single day you are together.

One of the great gifts of relationship and marriage—and there are many—is the ability to see the world through the eyes of another person, intimately, deeply, profoundly, in a way we’re almost never able to do with another human being. If you approach the mystery that is your partner with curiosity, your relationship and your life will be immeasura

The quality of our closest relationships, more than any other factor, determines our physical health, resistance to disease, and longevity.

The goal is to have a special date once a week, and make that a priority in your relationship.

Date nights are planned. Date nights are prioritized.

Mind you, negative events and regrettable incidents are inevitable in all relationships. The positive switch is all about how couples positively interpret their negative events and their partner’s character, and whether in their minds on an everyday basis they maximize the positive and minimize the negative (in their partner and in their relationsh

It was painstaking, methodical, and thorough research. The final result was the ability to determine with 94 percent accuracy who would stay married and who would eventually divorce.

If a couple starts by expressing negativity toward each other in the interview, whether in words, facial expressions, or body language (cynicism, sarcasm, eye-rolling), then it signals that a negative switch has flipped, and it almost inevitably predicts a relationship that will decline over time.

it’s the quality of our questions and our answers that allow us to continue learning and growing with one another through the years.