Duct Tape Parenting: A Less Is More Approach to Raising Respectful, Responsible, and Resilient Kids

2. Take perspective. Spend another moment to see if you can put yourself in your child’s shoes with a sense of empathy and compassion. We tend to treat our children’s behavior as we would a math problem. Instead, look at your children as you might a beautifully told story—with an attitude of appreciation. You and your children are about to write the n

Focus on what they want the child to accomplish. Celebrate the child’s successes and choices. See situations from the child’s perspective, as well as their own. Creatively teach the child how to communicate her wishes and frustrations with words, in an acceptable manner. Hold the child accountable to those teachings.

your main focus should be on short-circuiting arguments, letting go of your wish to reach consensus, and taking advantage of opportunities to let your child practice honoring you.