Don’t Sacrifice the Wrong Thing

In our twenties, Johanna and I stared for a long time into our souls and concluded that three things matter to us over everything else:

1. our relationship,


2. being able to honor our curiosity, and


3. giving our children the opportunity to do the same.

What is the opportunity cost? If I do this, if I go on this vacation, if I get this car, what am I turning down? By asking yourself this, and then consistently aiming to pick the thing that optimizes for what you most deeply value—it adds up. It makes life rich.