flow is a state where “the ego falls away. Time flies. Every action, movement, and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you’re using your skills to the utmost.”

Pain and fatigue are our body’s way of nudging us toward a course correction.

simple (sensations) and the complex (emotions) leads to better decision making and ultimately toughness. Situations that require toughness are those that involve a high level of stress, pressure, or adversity. Such conditions are prime for misreading and misattributing our feelings and emotions.

Remember that each strategy is designed to drag the other categories with them. If we shift our attention, we’re pulling our thoughts, actions, and mood with us.

toward competing conclusions or actions.

One theory posits that they are mental simulations—our body evaluating possible scenarios for our current situation, one of those being death.

When confidence is low, we are priming our minds to be susceptible

“Healthy adaptation is the result of flexibly choosing between regulation strategies to adapt to differing situational demands.” It’s not that distraction, suppression, reappraisal, detachment, or shifting to a broad or narrow worldview is good or bad. They all work—and don’t. TOUGHNESS

self-determination theory, the level of autonomy, or “the desire to be causal agents of one’s own life,” is intricately tied to our well-being.