Do Hard Things

It’s not in the elimination of doubt, but in allowing enough doubt to keep us in check, while being secure in the knowledge that we’ll find a way past the obstacle in our way.

Our body’s alarm system is malleable. We don’t have to be monk-like and turn the knobs to adjust our sensitivity. We just have to get better at predicting.

Honnold’s amygdala didn’t react to a single disturbing image. Not a blip of activity. Honnold’s secret weapon might be that his emotional reactivity is monk-like.

The magic is in aligning actual and expected demands.

Beyond the question of zooming in or out as a coping strategy, how do we deal with and regulate our emotions, whether those are grief, sorrow, or even fear? Do we ignore them, move on, embrace them, or fall prey to them?

“When one feels belonging, one feels accepted and seen, and when one is deprived of belonging, one feels rejected and invisible.”

Our level of control changes how we respond to stress.

supportive environments, choice and ownership take center stage.

People have a deep need to feel valued, and when they don’t, our most potent emotions let us know, begging us to do something about