However, being impeccable can mean taking certain kinds of vacations.

These holes originated during childhood, partly as a result of traumatic experiences or conflicts with the environment.

For example, believing that your partner will give you something—love or security or self-esteem—is the belief of a child, because it is obvious, if you look clearly, that the person will not or cannot give you such things.

we generally cannot approach the essential states connected with love, anger, or sex without experiencing anxiety, fear, even panic.

What I’m saying is effective only if you’re starting to feel your holes, which means you’re starting to feel your emptiness. If you’re filling it with words or ideas, you’re just filling it again.

Often people say, “No, I want to have the same things. I want a tit, regardless of my age.” But if you want a tit all the time, you continue being a baby. You just learn to hide what you want better.

Most of the time you are so identified with your attempt to fill holes that you don’t think it’s possible to not do this.

the quality the Zen Buddhists deal with is the essence of completeness—that to be completely here and now is to see the true nature of things. This is what we call the aspect of Brilliancy, and what Zen people call the Buddha nature.

Impeccability means letting go of those attachments.