
Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man

However, being impeccable can mean taking certain kinds of vacations.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
These holes originated during childhood, partly as a result of traumatic experiences or conflicts with the environment.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
For example, believing that your partner will give you something—love or security or self-esteem—is the belief of a child, because it is obvious, if you look clearly, that the person will not or cannot give you such things.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
we generally cannot approach the essential states connected with love, anger, or sex without experiencing anxiety, fear, even panic.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
So the other way around when we feel panic or fear this might be a sign that we are approaching essential states but don’t know how to?
What I’m saying is effective only if you’re starting to feel your holes, which means you’re starting to feel your emptiness. If you’re filling it with words or ideas, you’re just filling it again.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
Often people say, “No, I want to have the same things. I want a tit, regardless of my age.” But if you want a tit all the time, you continue being a baby. You just learn to hide what you want better.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
Most of the time you are so identified with your attempt to fill holes that you don’t think it’s possible to not do this.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
the quality the Zen Buddhists deal with is the essence of completeness—that to be completely here and now is to see the true nature of things. This is what we call the aspect of Brilliancy, and what Zen people call the Buddha nature.
A. H. Almaas • Diamond Heart: Elements of the Real in Man
Impeccability means letting go of those attachments.