Have you ever felt like a parent or caretaker in your relationship? Is this a pattern for you that feels familiar? I know it definitely has been for me, and healing this in myself has allowed me to experience the depth of partnership that is only possible between equals. When we take on the... See more

The moment you stop trying to fix your partner is the moment your relationship actually starts working. Here’s what actually shifts everything: learning to see your partner’s resistance as information, not defiance. The couples who last aren’t the ones who never trigger each other. They’re... See more

Lessons from my conversation with Dr. Sue Johnson 1. Criticism Is a Bid for Connection: When your partner criticizes or becomes passive-aggressive, they're not trying to hurt you. They're asking "Where are you?" Sue explains that demanding partners are desperately seeking connection: "If the other person doesn't... See more