I am re-reading ‘Getting the love you want’ by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt and it always astounds me how much the words resonate. For those of you who aren’t familiar with the book, it is based on the principals of Imago Therpay and suggests that we tend to choose partners on based familiar traits and... See more

Lessons from my conversation with Dr. Sue Johnson 1. Criticism Is a Bid for Connection: When your partner criticizes or becomes passive-aggressive, they're not trying to hurt you. They're asking "Where are you?" Sue explains that demanding partners are desperately seeking connection: "If the other person doesn't... See more

You say you want your husband to step-up… but the truth is he could go balls to the wall full leadership mode tomorrow and you would probably freak the fuck out. Before I started softening and doing polarity work, my husband tried to step-up. I would just shut him down.

He would assert an... See more