I am re-reading ‘Getting the love you want’ by Dr. Harville Hendrix and Dr. Helen Hunt and it always astounds me how much the words resonate. For those of you who aren’t familiar with the book, it is based on the principals of Imago Therpay and suggests that we tend to choose partners on based familiar traits and... See more

Lessons from my conversation with Dr. Sue Johnson 1. Criticism Is a Bid for Connection: When your partner criticizes or becomes passive-aggressive, they're not trying to hurt you. They're asking "Where are you?" Sue explains that demanding partners are desperately seeking connection: "If the other person doesn't... See more

I didn’t want to be the angry one anymore, so I stopped waiting for my partner to change and started changing what I could. And everything shifted. Small rules. Small habits. Small choices that helped me stay regulated instead of... See more