Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead

Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.

Each strategy was built on the same premise: Keep everyone at a safe distance and always have an exit strategy.

a desperate person will do anything to save themselves—to grab a breath—including drowning you in their effort to survive.

A sense of worthiness inspires us to be vulnerable, share openly, and persevere.

How do we break this insidious pattern? Maybe by deciding (and showing our children) that the solution to being stuck in shame is not to denigrate others stuck just like us, but to join hands and pull free together.

“This hurts. This is disappointing, maybe even devastating. But success and recognition and approval are not the values that drive me. My value is courage and I was just courageous. You can move on, shame.”

Shame resilience is about moving from shame to empathy—the real antidote to shame.

“There’s a crack in everything.5 That’s how the light gets in.”

‘Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.’